Parenting in the Summertime
Wednesday, July 23, 2014
So blogging has taken a back seat lately as so many other things feel more important. We've been easing into each day at our own pace and loving the flexibility. We've been hitting the pool, and the library and the park. We've been riding bikes, and hanging with friends, and reading together. We've been watching movies and eating ice cream and grilling out. And of course... we've been at the pool! It's been a slow and sweet summer. The kids are more independent than ever before, even making their own breakfast many mornings and becoming a significant help with chores around the house.
But you know it's not all summer rainbows and happiness. I would say my biggest parenting challenge at the moment is the constant sibling bickering. Whew, it's non-stop and many days I feel like a broken record trying to convince them that they are a gift to each other. At what age do they finally agree with that? 25? And yes, despite my lamenting, I have indeed heard the phrase "Mom, I'm bored" more than once around here. But I've learned to just let them sit with that feeling and not intervene. It passes quickly and they always find something to do.
But mostly this summer I'm just feeling grateful and free and less worried about entertaining the kids. The older I get, the more I learn to let go of expectations. And worry less about how other people are doing things and just embrace what I know to be right for MY family. I hope this feeling carries into the school year this fall. Because I feel like somehow this summer, I've managed to strike a great balance between healthy responsibilities and fun. I'm super proud of the kids actually. They are feeling personal pride in helping out around here and also learning that working for something feels really great.
And although I love blessing my kids with surprises and treats and I do that often, they have also heard the word NO quite a lot this summer and I think that's super important. For example, they only get a trip to the pool snack bar once a week and only on Fridays. Not four times a day like they would prefer. On a related note, I loved this post about eliminating entitlement in our children. So so good. And although I still struggle mightily against the tide called entitlement, I think they're gonna turn out alright. :)
Thank you for reading friends, even when I'm sporadic!