Be With What Is
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
I did a M.O.P.S. talk last year about the importance of the rhythms of rest and reflection in our lives. During my research, I referenced a book called "Sacred Rhythms" by Ruth Haley Barton. In the book, the author said something that I thought was so profound...
"One of the most important lessons I have learned over the past few years is how important it is to have time and space for being with what’s real in my life — to celebrate the joys, grieve the losses, shed my tears, sit with the questions, feel my anger, attend to my loneliness.”
In other words, BE WITH WHAT IS.
I have a tendency to be a flight responder. If something is uncomfortable in any way, I want to ruuuuun! I want to pretend it's not there. I want to deny, deflect and redirect. That's kinda my motto. I know, so healthy right? It truly goes against every fiber of my being to just sit there in whatever it is that just IS.
It's been a long hard winter for me. I don't do well when it's bone-chilling cold and I don't see the sun for weeks. In order to fight back the blues, I have turned to my iPhone as a distraction in way too many cases. I can't possibly just sit in my blue-ness and give it to God. It's too uncomfortable to attend to that discomfort. What's new on Instagram? What's new on Pinterest? I do the same thing when it comes to a very special family member who is currently struggling. Instead of sitting with the fears that I associate with this person, naming them, and debunking them with truth, I avoid this person and the situation at all costs. Why? Why can't I lean into that reality and grab it with courage? Why can't I remember that every opportunity to grow starts out with a little discomfort?
I'm not sure I have an answer on that, but I just wanted to write out some of these swirling thoughts in my head. I've just had a few nudges lately to be with what is. Because I lead a full, beautiful life. And in both joys and losses, I consider it a gift to have a beating heart that gets to walk this earth for a time. We only get a few trips around the sun. Might as well be fully human.